Donna Reade

QuickBooks Online Consulting & Bookkeeping

HATERS GONNA HATE! So what do WE do about it?

A couple years ago I was hired by the owners of IT Company to help them get their operations systematized.  During the time I worked with the owners their only sales person decided he did not like the changes.  As a result he would personally attack me during meetings. This was not my first time having to deal with people that did not want to change. So I would let him rant, ask him if he was finished, thanked him for his opinion and proceeded with the meeting agenda. The hate continued beyond the meetings and at one point he wrote a four page letter with what I was told more personal attacks. He emailed the letter not only to me but to the owners, the other employees, the HR consulting firm, clients and others he thought he could rally for his opinion. The point is that this person clearly wanted to project their insecurities, their negativity and their fears onto me.

No matter what you do and how well you do it, there will always be someone there to rain on your parade, so it is important to learn how to deal with haters. Haters are people who hate!  They are jealous of your success, but deny it and express negativity toward you and your accomplishments. They look for the smallest mistake or hiccup, then attack, never acknowledging any of the positives.  They are critical of everything, envious of you, and unhappy with themselves to say the least, so “How to approach their hating?” you ask.

Well, below are several effective ways to deal with haters.

IGNORE THEM

It is a lot easier said than done, but it is one of the effective ways to deal with haters.  When haters hate, and what they say is neither constructive criticism nor positive feedback, it has no value to your life.  What is the point in getting all bent out of shape by something someone said that you cannot even do anything about?  Haters say things that will do nothing but ruin your day, so with that heads up, be prepared to ignore!

DO NOT RETALIATE

When a hater hates, they’re looking for a response, otherwise they would not have made their feelings known.  If you retaliate, you are giving them what they want, and they don’t deserve your time and energy.  Believe me when I say, in the end, haters always manage to embarrass themselves without any help.  Responding with nasty words will only bring you down to their level.

DO NOT APOLOGIZE

If a hater approaches you with cursing, negativity, and unnecessary criticism looking for you to explain yourself, do not!  You do not owe them anything!  Do not justify, explain, apologize, or anything of the sort!   Never submit to disrespect and nastiness!  Hold on to your self-respect and require others to treat you with value and esteem.

HATERS GONNA HATE

Yeah I said it!  Haters will hate and you cannot change that.  If you keep that in mind, it will not hurt as much when the haters are doing their jobs.  It is their occupation.  They cannot breathe without negativity, so the best way to deal with that is to keep it in mind, and live as virtuously as you can.

Whether it is face-to-face or online, haters will always find something to hate on, so do not let it get you down!  Deal with haters in a way that you will be proud of later.  Focus your time and energy on something more productive.

4 Responses to HATERS GONNA HATE! So what do WE do about it?

  1. Laura Beynon says:

    I have experienced the exact things that you have talked about since starting my new business. I feel like “haters” always comment on topics/businesses they know nothing about. I have been reading about the Laws of Attraction. Like attracts like, what you focus on is what you will attract. Focus on the positive people who are going to support you and your business and that is what you will attract. Don’t entertain those negative thoughts at all!

  2. Charles Martin says:

    I feel that this is something that needs to be addressed. For the hater knows not what they do. For this reason we have ignorant individuals who are incapable of change. It is real bad because they are usually high on the corporate ladder and have control that affects everyone they come in contact with. They wii not change and refuse to admit or acknowledge there shortcomings. True “alike do attract”, but opposite also attract. I agree, you have to ignore and have the ability to evade this dispiteful person. It is a ploy on their part to manipulate and make diversions. Stay positive and grow from this experience.

  3. K Cronin says:

    Very On Point … Thank you

  4. Daryl Januszewski says:

    Donna, you make a lot of great points here, definitely words to live by!