You may not be able to tell at first but once you get a hint that you are working with a Toxic Business Leader run, run like the wind. No matter how hard you try you cannot fix them. No matter how much they say they want to learn the reality is they are using the Toxic behaviors to try to manipulate you. Gather the courage to just quietly and with dignity walk away.
Recently, I had to do this. It is not the first time I have worked with a Toxic Business Leader. My past experiences helped me recognize the Toxic behaviors and take control of my situation. One saying I always refer to is “The divorce is always present on the first date.” Perhaps I knew on the first day that something was amiss when the password to the owners laptop was …
One of my biggest struggles in my day-to-day life is managing my priorities. And by that, I mean I take stuff wayyyy too seriously. Car bill due? I’m thinking about it all day. Carpet to vacuum? Also on my mental to-do list.
If you spend all your time prioritizing your responsibilities, you’re likely ignoring some things that are very important to your life. Like your family, your friends, your “you” time, etc.
Try out focusing on these 7 areas to see if you can achieve a happier life.
A couple years ago I was hired by the owners of IT Company to help them get their operations systematized. During the time I worked with the owners their only sales person decided he did not like the changes. As a result he would personally attack me during meetings. This was not my first time having to deal with people that did not want to change. So I would let him rant, ask him if he was finished, thanked him for his opinion and proceeded with the meeting agenda. The hate continued beyond the meetings and at one point he wrote a four page letter with what I was told more personal attacks. He emailed the letter not only to me but to the owners, the other employees, the HR consulting firm, clients and others he thought he could rally for his opinion. The point is that this person clearly wanted to project their insecurities, their negativity and their fears onto me.
The chaos of life affects us all at some point in time. We get a setback at work. A setback in our relationship, in business and sometimes that setback can make you question everything. You freeze because you don’t know what to do. You are so emotionally wrapped up in the shock of what happened that you cannot think straight.
Here are 3 Tips I recently used to forge ahead when things got tough: