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Things We Should Have Been Taught As Teenagers

53 school2This week I sent my teenagers off to new schools. They were homeschooled for 6 years. I am reminded of some truths that I think should be taught in schools. What do you think?

Hard work will not always equate to success. You can put up a good fight and still lose. There are just some things that, for whatever reason, we have to carry with us.

You shouldn’t ever assume to know the truth about someone. Don’t judge people on the bits and pieces of them you can understand.

Drama does not just magically “find you.” Enough said.

The people who are most loved and respected are usually the ones who show interest in others. True admiration does not stem from what kind of clothes someone wears, how much money their parents have or what kind of car they drive. They are kind even though the same notion isn’t always reciprocated back to them. That is how people matter.

You don’t have to know who you are. The whole concept of figuring that out is futile. You will always be figuring things out as you go along, who you are will be an evolution. Don’t limit yourself by being attached to the things you defined yourself as at one point.

The whole world is a marketing ploy. It’s designed for you to “not feel good enough” so you keep buying into the crap that makes capitalism run. You should be aware of the standards society imposes on your psyche and you should know that who you are is not quantifiable. Nobody has the right to tell you how to be. So don’t give it to them.

If you find a way to interest yourself in whatever you’re learning, you will actually learn it. Learn to love learning for the sake of it. It will change how you approach most things.

If you don’t learn to enjoy yourself now, you never will. You don’t grow up and stop struggling. Adulthood is not the answer. Let that go.

It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to screw everything up entirely. Beating yourself up for that won’t help your case. You are allowed to not know. You are never at a juncture where it is required to have it all figured out.

You are supposed to be confused. That is not some abstract concept you’ll need to learn to deal with. There will be many days — and many, many moments within those days — when you are genuinely lost and that is more than okay.

Most people will forget about the person you were if you show them the person you are. So you evolve. So you change. That’s okay. Your peers will evolve, too. The person you were when school ended for the summer is not the person you need to be when it resumes again in the fall. The person you were in high school is not the person you will be at your 10 year reunion, nor should it be.

Most people aren’t inherently bad. They’re just grappling with their own stuff and possibly taking that out on you. People, for the most part, are more concerned with themselves than they are with you. If ever they feel the need to be mean just be kind to them.

While it will take many conversations and experiences with my teenagers they will be much more prepared for the road ahead if they can learn those lessons that are not taught in school.

By the way my teenagers are loving going to school and they cannot get out the car quick enough in the morning.

3 Responses to Things We Should Have Been Taught As Teenagers

  1. Telly Paris says:

    I am thinking of home schooling my daughter who would be going into the 7th grade. She really wants to home school, my husband is set on school. He thinks school also prepares for life

  2. Lisa says:

    So many great points in this post! I loved “If you don’t learn to enjoy yourself now, you never will. You don’t grow up and stop struggling. Adulthood is not the answer. Let that go.” Now ain’t that the truth? 😉

  3. Greg Bruce says:

    I agree with many of these, especially: Drama does not just magically “find you.”.

    That said, I DO think you have to know who you are! in counterpoint to your: You don’t have to know who you are. So many great quotes come to mind for me on this! Such as:

    “The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.”
    ~ Erik Erikson
    “Know yourself. Don’t accept your dog’s admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful.”
    ~ Ann Landers
    “Only as you do know yourself can your brain serve you as a sharp and efficient tool. Know your own failings, passions, and prejudices so you can separate them from what you see.”
    ~ Bernard Baruch

    Yes, you are ever evolving, if you are human…but your character, your level of integrity, your compassion, your desire to learn…or lack thereof…and so many other aspects of who we are, are things to be aware of, and know about yourself!

    Anyway, that is what we tried to teach our 4 daughters as they grew up. A constant quote we had on the wall outside their rooms was about character/integrity:

    “Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.”
    ~ C. S. Lewis

    That’s my 2 cents…
    Thanks!!

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